The Bend the Break // Project 366 // Day 3

One of my oldest friendships is elastic we bend, we stretch, we take all we can from each other we don't break. Though I would never take the same from someone else. I wouldn't let my friends be treated this way. Because we've known each other forever it somehow becomes acceptable.

Though we don't break, we take breaks. Right now I need a breather, the older we get the less similar we are but yet still so similar still the same people we were as teens only different a little wiser, a little jaded. Breathers stop us from disappearing all together from each others lives. A small price to pay for some sanity.

We're mouldable, yet set in our ways.

We'll be laughing and taking shots in no time.

We bend so we don't break.

xoxo

I’ll Never Send and You’ll Never See // Project 365 // Day 39

To you on your birthday. Though I won’t send this and you won’t read it. I’m putting it to the universe so it no longer sits in my head;

I hope these nexts 365 days bring you good times and great memories. 

So weird to think how different life was this time last year. It has been hard for me and I look optimistically out towards the rest of the year  and believe once again there will be better times ahead. I hope as the sun spins and life moves on that you are living your best life. 

I’m sorry that our friendship didn’t survive the trials and tribulations that life throws. And though I still don’t really understand what happened and why. To move on with life I need to stop pondering and realise that everything happens for a reason. 

Maybe this season of life wasn’t meant for us. 

Maybe I did something bad. 

I’m grateful for the moments that life did bless us with. Which is why the end was truly a challenging time for me. 

Here are some life lessons that I learned or relearned: 

1. you won’t always get answers, learn to accept this and move on anyway
2. Peoples perception of you is not who you are. You know the true you. 
3. What people say of you is a reflection of them and not of you. 
4. Take a leaf out of Emily Gilmore’s book which is really Marie Kondo’s method and if it doesn’t bring you joy get rid of it. 

There’s probably more. I’ve contemplated a lot on sending you a message at all. If your reading this. Then I have. And that’s a lot for me. To put myself out there. It’s like shouting into the oblivion. Knowing that even if anyone here’s a sound, it’s already too late. 

That’s deep. 

I don’t know how to make this lighthearted, because it does all feel heavy. 

So back to the original message. Happy Birthday. Your another year older. Time is all too fleeting and in a moment everything will change. So grab onto chances and let roads take you to where you don’t even know you need to go. 

I hope your excited for this next chapter in your life. I hope it treats you well and that you fill it with all the things that you want to do. 

Enjoy your next spin round the sun. 

xoxo

Make Effort for People who Make Effort for You // 365 project // Day 6

Yesterday I wrote about how I was miles outside my comfort zone going to a day out for a birthday of a friend. And one of my reasons for going was challenging myself outside of my comfort zone. Seeking new and unfamiliar territory. 

The main reason though was that this year my aim is to make effort for people who make effort for me. And my friend is someone who makes effort to see me, to text. And this year I want to make sure I’m returning the favour. Not just for her but all the people in my life who make the effort. 

I’m going to stop putting a lot of effort into one sided friendships. And start putting in effort to the people who can often be taken for granted because they're always there. 

Putting in the effort can be rewarding, whither instantaneous like last night where going out resulted in meeting friendly new people and discovering new cocktails bars that I will certainly be returning to.  Other times it may take a while to see your effort paid off like with exercise or eating healthier but no matter the case if you put effort into the right things then you will reap the positive side effects. 

xoxo